Why I cannot sign The Manhattan Project (<–click to read)

(warning: snarkiness ahead)

No, no, no. I simply cannot sign a document such as this. Why? Because it does not reflect the heart of Jesus. Not really. I know that’s a bold statement. Truthfully, it is not a bad document and it carries within it many important issues and good intentions. However, I find the whole thing another humongous adventure in missing the point. And I feel that we have lost our soul.

The Preamble recalls the contributions of Christians throughout history- from the times of rescuing infants from trash heaps during the reign of the Roman Empire to the abolition of slavery, from Christian women “standing at the vanguard of women’s suffrage” to work against human trafficking and AIDS in Africa. Cool stuff, really. However, looking at ourselves through such a selective memory can be dangerous. Various forms of Christian theology continue to give a double message in regards to a woman’s value and voice, especially within our own communities. Christians also owned slaves and used the scriptures to justify their actions for centuries. During the 1980’s when AIDS first came to the forefront, Christians in America abandoned the ravaged gay community with the belief that the disease was God’s judgment and they deserved it. I remember distinctly when they turned their backs en masse on various members of our Dallas community who were revealed to be dying from AIDS. It was cruel.

I am very glad for the ways in which Christians have acted justly and honorably in world-changing ways over the millennia. That was and is as it should be. I do believe we have had a powerful effect for good. However, if we do not remember that we are slow learners and have much more growing to do as far as loving our brothers and sisters here and worldwide, we will continue to make atrocious mistakes such as those above. As it has been said, those who do not know history are doomed to repeat it. (There’s a really, really brief mention of “imperfections and shortcomings” in the declaration which does little to acknowledge our culpability.) And humility is a virtue that we also value. We need to be humble enough to realize we have blown it and need to work hard to win trust back. We need humility to become who we are meant to be. We are not there yet. But the journey of humility and becoming could be a real testimony to Jesus. No, seriously, it could.

The document is said to be written out of concern for the poor and vulnerable which is fitting for a Christian manifesto. However, the agenda is primarily two things: pro-life legislation and anti-gay marriage. They also include the “the rights of conscience and religious liberty” but seem to be fairly vague when it comes to implementation. But anyhoo, first of all, the writers seem to forget that the vast majority of abortions in the country are done for economic reasons. Passing legislation to end abortions only leaves people in dire straights. Why wouldn’t the writers ask us to put our time, passion and oh yes, our own money in finding a way to engage the lives of the men and women who are facing unwanted pregnancies? What education or help do they need? Jobs? Childcare? To simply make this a matter of legislation may satisfy our selfish hearts but do little to actually help the poor or the vulnerable. My theory is that it is easier to write a document or pass a law than to get your hands dirty by actually moving into a poorer neighborhood and making friends and having a direct and yes, sacrificial but real impact on people’s lives. I know that even speaking that way freaks people out but that’s what God did. He went slumming – He moved in and actually became one of us and gave up quite a bit of His entitlement. We already know that story. So, why do we think we can hide behind a document or law when it comes to people’s lives and call it Christian?

Second, there is much debate over gay marriage and civil unions and what impact those things may have on society. However, very few (if any) of the authors listed have published anything that I can find that has any scientific or psychological knowledge or insight about the homosexual orientation. Love would mean at least giving a damn enough to learn, wouldn’t it? Maybe it might mean reading a few books outside the ones that only reinforce what you want to believe? More importantly, wouldn’t asking forgiveness for the way Christians have treated the gay community (and still do in some sects) be a much more powerful way to win hearts and possibly, to win enough respect to earn the right to speak? That paragraph is not in this declaration. And imposing our moral ethics on others is not what Jesus taught. It wasn’t His way.

They also mention a “marriage culture”. I am all for marriage, and for healthy marriage especially. I have been married a long time and that came by a lot of hard work and commitment. But this document is meaningless until we get our ducks in a row as far as what a healthy male-female marriage is. The rigidity and refusal of complementarian theologians to see the harm that their condescending view of women’s “roles” has had on both men and women continues to damage people. I have counseled too many couples who have been harmed and confused by that stuff. It breeds a false sense of masculinity as well- something that is far from the picture of the Bridegroom (who lay down everything dudes, who didn’t grasp power, and who taught a pattern mutual submission of the entire body for which marriage can be a model). Oh, if these theologians/writers could even just admit that their exegesis has some major craters holes in it and they might just possibly, infinitesimally, maybe perhaps, once in a while could be a wee tad bit wrong and just might, maybe, possibly have a thing or two to learn and there might just possibly, maybe, be a reason to reconsider things. Just sayin’. Half of the church worldwide is affected by the views on women (as are the surrounding cultures), but I can understand if you’re busy. Sigh.

Ultimately, this is why I cannot sign this:

We are Christians who have joined together across historic lines of ecclesial differences to affirm our right—and, more importantly, to embrace our obligation—to speak and act in defense of these truths. We pledge to each other, and to our fellow believers, that no power on earth, be it cultural or political, will intimidate us into silence or acquiescence.  It is our duty to proclaim the Gospel of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ in its fullness, both in season and out of season. May God help us not to fail in that duty.

This is our obligation???? No, brothers and sisters, it is not. We are Christians. First and foremost our obligation is to love. Jesus was very clear on this. He never asked us to be the moral police or even the truth police. (Shocking, I know.) He asked us to actively and sacrificially love others and then work at keeping our own houses in order. (Our own- this means us, not them out there who tick us off because they aren’t doing it right and certainly not as good as us.) And rights? Rights? You know what Jesus did with His rights, right? Is that not a classic example of cultural syncretism? Why aren’t these Christian leaders teaching us about how to lay our rights down?

To take a real “stand” that flows from love would mean an incarnational and consistent engagement with the people that this document affects. Seriously, how many babies are we willing to adopt? How much child care will we subsidize out of our own pockets? Have the declaration writers invited their gay neighbors to dinner yet? Have you? Are the authors willing to move to the Congo and die alongside those being extinguished by ethnic hatred there? Are any of us willing to go that far? You have to admit, a bunch of middle to upper middle class white guys doing that would certainly grab media attention and maybe make an impact that would shake the core of this self-centered world. It might even make a real difference the way that sanctions and bombs have not. Call me cynical but something tells me this is not in the plans for the writers of this document.

They do talk about noble things like assisting those who are facing genocide and ethnic cleansing, as well as human trafficking. I am happy to hear this and I hope these folks can help to wake the church up to the desperate needs that exist outside our own political agendas and American lifestyles. But what will this mean? Is it maintaining personal passivity and demanding the government do all the work? Is it enjoying smug self-righteousness when the “right” bills pass? I have worked hard in support raising for a ministry to help women leave the sex for sale trade and are so often met with empty promises and glazed eyes. It is not a ministry that Christians want to write about in their Christmas letters. They hate the sound of human trafficking and yet, cannot face that it is also happening right in their own cities, maybe with their own neighbors. (Do you really think all au pairs are voluntary and getting paid a good wage?) Love is not glamorous work, folks. If preachers begin to preach the reality of the cost of effecting Jesus’ kind of justice in this world they will have really small congregations, but maybe they will really be the Church.

Jesus was a subversive. He engaged in relationship and story, calling people back to dignity and love. He was hands on, poor as dirt, and reviled by those who like comfortable lives. To begin to call Christians to live as He did is a major undertaking. It will cost us everything. He asks way more of us than this declaration does. Even so, I do believe the hearts behind it meant well. They crafted the words carefully and are not mean-spirited. But they utterly miss the heart and example of Jesus. This declaration will only serve to stir up more of the “us and them” mentality, to create more dividing lines and to misrepresent the GOOD News to a hurting world. Enough, folks. This declaration is cowardly by comparison to what Jesus has called us to be.

What if they wrote up a document that called the Church to really be who we really are and challenge us to be people who don’t hide behind moral documents and laws but who truly live in sharp contrast to this world? And, what if the “contrast” was described as not merely that we’re “happy” and don’t see “R” rated movies and know who to condemn, reject and avoid, but that we’re people who’d rather live in a smaller home than see another family go homeless, or take the bus so car money can go to the local non-profits that provide free legal aid to battered women and their kids. Do you see my point? The folks who wrote the Manhattan Declaration (not to be confused with the Manhattan Project which was about creating the ultimate weapon of mass destruction and nuking millions of innocent people – ahem) and who have been described as “prominent Christians” can do way, way better than this paper.

Write that document (as described above) and then perhaps I’ll sign it.

Other blogs on the same topic:
by Dr. Robert Prescott, a Mainstream Oklahoma Baptist (click)

Brian McLaren#1

Brian McLaren #2

a lawyer looks at the Manhattan Declaration

Good posts from a different point of view:

Rev’s Rumbles

Scot McKnight, Jesus Creed

itsreallyall3It’s Really All About God
By Samir Selmanovic
Jossey-Bass
286 pages including study questions

When recommending an important book one of my favorite profs used to say, “Go, sell all that you have and buy this book.” There’s not many books that can truly earn such a strong endorsement but I think this is one of them. But I must recommend it with a warning: it will rock your world. Perhaps it’s only suitable only for those whose thirst for God has exceeded safety limits. For through his personal stories and engagement with the stories of  Christians, Muslims, Pagans, Atheists and more, author Samir Selmanovic points the way to a life with God and each other that is bigger and better than most of us have ever dared to dream. It is the only non-fiction book that has brought me to deeply felt tears in recent years. And there’s laughter as well to be sure, flowing easily from his descriptions of our humble human condition. (Really, who writes about their hemorrhoids?) Yet in this warm sharing of very human realities he draws us into a brother and sisterhood of humanity in which we may encounter God in the midst of our ordinary experiences. I am writing this not so much as a book review than as an expression of gratitude.

Samir Selmanovic is the founder and co-leader of Faith House in New York City. He shares his own journey from his beginnings amidst a close atheist/Muslim family in eastern Europe to his conversion to Christianity through a Seventh Day Adventist Church and through the realization of having embraced a way of understanding religion that limited the scope of God’s love in this world. “Religions are meant to lose their luster to God’s larger presence,” he says. And, are we willing to make [our] religion “take a back seat to something larger than itself?” The eye-opening time for him was when he reflected on the fact that his early years had been encompassed by fullness, celebration, hard work, kindness, laughter, generosity and warmth within his secular Muslim home and he realized that “Life was complete, until I became a Christian and it all came apart.

He came to realize that in his early days of conversion he had shut out his former life and relationships. Rather than growing into more life, he had merely switched sides. In my early years as a Christian, I also learned to compartmentalize my life, ignoring family celebrations for Christian retreats and pouring less of me into connection with dorm friends and others to go to Campus Crusade meetings. I ignored my heart for years, assuming that to want to drink in regular old life, side by side with family and neighbors of all persuasions was to step away from the Kingdom or compromise myself. (Yes, I was actually taught that.) Selmanovic demonstrates beautifully that the Kingdom was to be found in those places all along. God inhabits the lives of all people.

At first glance it might seem that this is just another attempt at asserting the idea that Christians dread- that there’s good in all religions so why can’t we all get along? However, I believe he rescues us from our shrunken vision of exclusivity and superiority. He gently and beautifully challenges Christian triumphalism and leads us to a healthier place by recalling our virtue of humility- we are not the only ones who serve and do for the world. He gives us back the wonder of the deep enjoyment of the presence and expression of God in all others. The gift of other religions, he says, is that “They pose difficult questions we don’t want to ask, make assumptions we don’t want to acknowledge or examine, create meaningful arguments against us we don’t want to consider, and expose harmful practices we don’t want to stop.” They make us better Christians and in that vein, they can help us to become better lovers as a more generous expression of God’s heart for this world. Perhaps trying to “own” God has distorted our self-understanding.

So how much will our hearts expand? Christians have considered atheists to be the enemy. Selmanovic draws us into an even more expansive heart that is able to embrace the gift that atheism brings. He says, “Atheism at its best grabs us by the collar and throws us to the ground, demanding to see lives well lived, forcing us to dig deeper and live up to the best of our own religions.” Atheism calls on us to live out the integrity that our “converted” hearts have claimed.

In my tribe I know that a knee-jerk reaction will be that the author is advocating relativism – that all faiths are the same so we should just blend together. We fear the loss of specialness, as God’s “peculiar people”. But he asserts that our uniqueness is a gift that we offer to one another and that the boundaries that maintain our distinctiveness are also essential in order to love well. However, the author reminds us, these boundaries do not need to be cement walls. Why can’t they be bridges? Or doors? If God is relational (and of course He is), so are we, and we need a path towards each other.

But here is the real gift – as we lay down our demand to be first and best and only and that all others must become like us, won’t we then look more like Jesus who laid down all of His privilege, even equality with God, to become one of us and live in our reality, even unto death? We will become lovers in the best sense as He was, serving up, making room for the other and dancing with God as He plays in 10,000 places. As we give up our stake in protecting Christianity, we are freer to follow Christ. Through this gentle, winsome call out of a religious expression which sets up rigid walls between human beings, we may paradoxically find and therefore express more of Him. In losing ourselves, we will find Life. Selmanovic says, “We can either stay with the Christianity that we have mastered with the Jesus we have domesticated, or we can leave Christianity as a destination, embrace Christianity as a way of life, and then journey to reality, where God is present and living in every person, every human community, and all creation.” Sounds like the Kingdom to me.

www.samirselmanovic.com

Read the New York Times Review
Mystery Over Certainty
Pomomusings
Video of Samir Selmanovic

(I once again apologize for my lack of gender-inclusive language. There is no appropriate pronoun to describe God who transcends gender and creating hybrids makes me crazy. But the author of this book absolutely includes women fully and freely into this wonderful mix.)

southafrica-winegetawayI took a brief Sabbath from blogging about some reflections on the 10 commandments and have returned just in time to continue with number 4.

Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the LORD your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your manservant or maidservant, nor your animals, nor the alien within your gates. For in six days the LORD made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, but he rested on the seventh day. Therefore the LORD blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy. ~ Ex. 20:8-11

I have written about the Sabbath before (found here) but there is always more to say about such a day as this.

My husband and I enjoyed the most beautiful Sabbath experience several years ago during a trip to Africa. We had spent 5 weeks in Mozambique with people we loved, working very full days, writing, preparing, teaching, discipling, learning, traveling, preaching, visiting, counseling and conversing. There was no time off. We enjoyed it so much we didn’t realize how tired we were until we left Mozambique and landed in Capetown, South Africa (via Johannesburg). While there we had some time to take in the lovely seascape, travel around the Cape of Good Hope while dodging penguins and baboons, and gaze at all the beauty from high up on Table Mountain. Interspersed between those things was a visit to Robben Island (where Nelson Mandela had been imprisoned for 27 years) and visits to a few of the many townships where poor, black South Africans still reside post-apartheid. The strange juxtaposition of it all was too much for my mind to hold.

One morning, we ended up at an old winery. A huge, leafy tree beckoned us to come sit beneath it and rest alongside a small blue pond. Dappled sunlight poured through the leaves above us as we sunk into in white wicker chairs. The temperature was perfect, neither too warm nor cool. It was so perfect in fact, that we barely noticed any temperature at all. A gentle breeze rustled through endless rows of grapevines that wove up into the small hills that encircled the vineyard. The vineyard owner’s two purebred dogs came out to sit with us in the shade of the tree, lying in two half-moons at our feet. As if on cue, two glasses of wine would appear at intervals for tasting, accompanied by cheese and fruit. The time for work and worry had passed for the moment, and it was time to drink in beauty with all of our senses. We were soaked in Presence. We could feel God’s pleasure.

Sabbath time. Sabbath is more than a pleasant day off, or a reward for hard work. It is a call to remember. The Sabbath command recalls a time that pre-dates the day that we forgot God and forgot ourselves. It recalls beauty, harmony and life abundant. It stirs longing for the home we’ve never really known but desire just the same. It is a thin place, where we once again may walk in the garden with God in the cool of the day. It helps us to rediscover joy – an experience that is sorely lacking in so much of our lives that are consumed by survival and competition and production. Sabbath increases our longing for wholeness and wellness. Sabbath is a connection to our past and to the future, where we at once recall the beauty for which we were designed, and gain a better vision for the coming reign of God. It is a reminder of the promise: “All shall be well”.

What’s most remarkable to me about this commandment is that it includes a profound sense of God’s heart for justice. Sabbath rest is not merely for the rich and privileged who can afford not to work. Nor is it merely for those who have “earned” the right to rest. As Jesus reminds us so many times in various ways, those who seemed not to work as hard or “do it right” will still be welcomed by Him, just like the parable in which the workers who started their labor late in the day in the vineyard got the same reward as those who had toiled since the early morning. God simply does not measure us by the things that seem logical in a post-fall world. Sabbath reflects grace.

The commandment about Sabbath was spoken to the Jews after they had been freed from slavery in Egypt. They knew what it was like to be the hated and oppressed other. And now they learned that the people of God were never to treat others that way. The Sabbath would include all – male and female, people of all stations of life, strangers and even animals. All would be free to enjoy God and others. The Sabbath is meant for all Creation. It foreshadows the Kingdom to come but as we practice it together it helps to create Kingdom Now.

As I was teaching about this one day in Mozambique, I was struck by the overwhelming irony of being a white American standing in authority as a teacher over black Africans in their own country. I prayed, God what do I do with this? I sensed Him say, “Speak to them about their story.” So with more than a little trembling, I did. I began to speak of the reality of slavery that had ravaged their continent and despoiled the moral health of a large part of the world for centuries. Their eyes reflected deep shame and they slunk lower into their seats.

As our conversation progressed they began to reveal some of the lies they had been told. “Is it true,” one asked, “that we are black because we are so sinful?” Is it true that we are black because we are cursed?” “Is it true that the white man must rule over us because we are sinful?” They had been told all these things by colonists and remembered them for generations. We went to the text together to disrupt those lies. And because of the fourth commandment that speaks to former slaves about equity and God’s heart for all, they were able to bring their story to the true Story. They began to pop like popcorn out of their seats. “Africa is blessed!” one man cried.

Sabbath, it seems, is a transformative practice. It is a great equalizer. When we each remember to interrupt and stop what we believe is our life and look up to remember our Source, we stop measuring and rating and comparing ourselves to one another. Then as we make space for all to experience Sabbath rest by removing our resentments and demands upon the other, we remember our interconnectedness. When we all are free to dream, rest and play, and all are free to pause and drink in the same beauty under a sunlit tree, then all are finally recognized to be the fruit of the same Vine.

I believe that Sabbath is a practice that we cannot afford to ignore. It is a commandment that is restorative for us on many levels. But even as we are intentional about practicing Sabbath as a community, there will still be food to be prepared, babies to be changed, or animals to be tended. Somebody’s hands will be serving. The fact that while we live in this world our work never truly stops just serves to remind us that true Sabbath never happens without some form of sacrifice. That too, is part of the Story that needs to be recalled again and again.

nameinvainI am blogging through the 10 commandments. Sometimes things become so familiar that we can’t truly see them anymore. I am finding them richer and more grace oriented than I remembered. They come alive when you remember God’s passion for creating the Kingdom of Shalom- peace, life, and love- on earth. The post on the first two commandments is here.

So here is number 3:

You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain, for the LORD will not leave him unpunished who takes His name in vain.
Exodus 20:7

What does it mean to take the Lord’s name in vain? According to Webster, the word vain means “empty; devoid of real value; useless; worthless, fruitless and futile.” On one level we understand that to not take the Lord’s name in vain means no “OMG’s”. We do use empty expressions of God’s name frequently. We even throw God’s name around as if it were a curse. Jesus! It feels powerful, I suppose, as curse words often do. I sometimes imagine the long-suffering, bodily resurrected and present Jesus saying, “I am right here. No need to shout.” Now that would make cool reality TV.

Do we have any idea of WHOM we speak? Once again, the name of God used in this commandment is YHWH (Yahweh), which is the personal name of God that is referenced when you see the capitalized word LORD in the text. It was considered by the ancient Hebrews to be too sacred to speak. I need to meditate on that a bit more. I wonder if this was because any word to name or describe God cannot ever be big enough and therefore once we utter it, we have reduced God down into what our finite minds can hold. St. Augustine said that once we have explained God, we have lost God. Peter Rollins says that any talk that we have of God is not truly about God. It is about our understanding of God. It is about finite, one-dimensional snapshots of God, and the images we have constructed from them. A study of the word for vain, שָׁוְא in Hebrew associates it with the idea of idols – something worthless for ascertaining the truth. To reduce God in this way must be the ultimate act of vanity (both in the sense of emptiness, but also in conceit) because we create a false image of Him.

In our attempts to grasp an understanding of God lies the inherent danger that we will create a system of religion and ethics that is built around the smaller God that we’ve captured. When we do so, we begin to speak in ways that demand supremacy and “being right” and that create divides and exclusions and distortions of the faith in His name. Love is thwarted. (It’s funny how this smaller God resembles ourselves.) When this happens we violate both of the greatest commandments given to us by Jesus (that sum up all of the 10) which are: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, soul and strength and love others as you love yourself.” When we take God’s name in vain, we lose God and thus, each other. It kills the community of Shalom. It’s fruitless, empty, futile.

Even as we confess our utter poverty in trying to understand God, Jesus brought a name and face to us as the God-man, God in flesh. He came to show us what God was truly like: No one has seen God at any time; the only begotten God who is in the bosom of the Father, He has explained Him.” (John 1:18) Even so, I realize that we do continue to try to reduce Him or fit Him into our mold (Soldier Jesus, Boyfriend Jesus, Santa Jesus, Holier than Thou Jesus, Congeniality Jesus, etc.) but we have a Person who has shown us the heart of God and how God moves in this world. Like the first two commandments, I think the third is calling us back to sit with Him and gaze upon His Face. Sitting with Jesus, we silence our many words so that instead of grasping and comprehending, we are grasped. Instead of holding and possessing, we are held. Instead of “changing” God, God changes us. Sitting there with Jesus, we learn that “that which we cannot speak of is the one thing about whom and to whom we cannot stop speaking.”* There we find our heart’s desire instead of own vain attempts at explanations of Him.  After all, “one does not read love letters while in the embrace of the Beloved.”* Then, we love “because He first loved us.” (1 John 4:19)

Here’s more thoughts on what taking God’s name in vain might mean (Feel free to add your own!):

  • Presuming to speak for God in ways that divides and diminishes others
  • Televangelists who insist that God promises that if you send money to them your life will change for the better (We have had too many vulnerable people deceived by this.)
  • Asserting absolute rights over another in the name of God
  • Presuming ownership of God in the belief that God does not or cannot inhabit the lives of people outside our faith circles
  • Presuming to live self-sufficiently, as if our lives do not effect the whole
  • Using God to justify a religious spirit that profits or dominates, or simply must have the last word
  • Withholding respect from others as the Imago Dei
  • Presenting the Evangel as one who is not good news for all
  • Forgetting grace

*These quotes are from “It’s Really All About God” by Samir Selmanovic
(It is also so difficult to write of God when we don’t have a pronoun that can transcend gender!)

montypythonGodI am going to blog about the 10 commandments. Wow, you must be running low on material, a friend said. Weeeeell no, I am interested in writing about them because I think how we see them reveals something about ourselves. They may trigger all sorts of reactions, as my friend conveniently demonstrated. There are those who view them with feelings of guilt or annoyance. Some view them with a smug satisfaction. Some see them as a big snooze-fest like my friend above. She also feels burdened and judged when she reads them.

I resonate with Scot McKnight when he says that the 10 commandments are relational in nature. The first four commandments are about loving God, the last 6 are about loving others. Jesus summed them all up for us in His expansive way: Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, soul and strength and love others as you love yourself. I have always wondered why people get so adamant about having the 10 commandments posted in their local government buildings instead of the two greatest commands. Is it because Jesus’ interpretation of them requires so much more of us?

The first two were originally seen by the Hebrews as one commandment. Maybe should be called the Nine Commandments, which would be a cool play of 3’s, being Trinitarian and all. But I digress. The first two commandments are:

“I am the LORD your God, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery.

“You shall have no other gods before me.

“You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below.
Exodus 20: 2-4

The first two commandments are contained in verses 3 and 4 but I included verse 2 because it reveals something about God’s heart for the people. When LORD is written in all caps, it is the word Yahweh (YHWH), which is God’s personal name and was considered so sacred by the Hebrews that they would not utter it. So here we have God expressing Him/Herself on a personal, relational level as the one brought them into freedom. That’s what love does. Even so, we often read the commandments as if God were saying from on high, “I do and do and do for you kids and what do I get? Straighten up and fly right! Here’s the rules, don’t blow it again.” Instead, I think God was saying something more like, “This is Who I am, and I know who you are. Here is the way that brings life, love and freedom. Walk in it.”

Why do I say that? I believe that these commandments are pure grace. You shall have no other gods before me. In the days of Moses there were plenty of other cultures with dozens of gods whom people had to please in order to ease their anxiety about surviving in a harsh world. It gave them some sense of control to think they had some affect on what could bring good weather for crops or to have plenty of sons so one’s tribe and influence would increase. The Hebrews were often lured into those beliefs. But these gods were capricious and unpredictable. And there were so many of them that required attention. People were enslaved to appeasing them, even sacrificing their own children when required.

Don’t be enslaved to anyone or anything, God said. Look at Me. I bring you freedom.

In addition, being a student of attachment theory which studies how people develop into healthy, loving human beings, I think God was saying something even more profound. In attachment theory we know that a child develops a sense of being and self from the loving gaze of another, primarily at first, her mother. Through sensitive connection, reflection and response, a child learns that she exists as a separate and special person, that she is worthy of love and can trust others to meet her needs. Eventually she is able to become one who is able connect emotionally and meet others’ needs as well. Without that strong protective beginning, people cannot attach in deep, healthy ways in later relationships. Love is thwarted. People struggle deeply because their true selves are tucked away and hidden, often even from themselves. They struggle to know how to get close to others and often feel unable to participate in some of the sweetest things in life because they don’t know or trust who they really are. So, what does this have to do with the commandments?

From the creation stories we know that we are the Imago Dei, the image of God. The crucial mother-child attachment is an icon of the crucial attachment we need in relationship with God. God’s gaze upon us affirms our truest selves and helps to peel away the “god complex” -the false selves that we often create to present to the world. We draw our truest identity from a face to face relationship with God. He tells us who we are, giving us the unconditional acceptance and love and delight that we need to flourish and be. He is the ultimate “Thou” to call forth our “I”, to paraphrase Martin Buber. From this orientation to God, we begin to understand who we are. Likewise, on a larger scale the living Church body draws her life and identity from God as well. To shift our gaze downward towards lesser things as we often do, substituting Christology for Christ for example, or beliefs that squeeze out those who do not fit a particular mold, means we lose ourselves. We lose our corporate identity.

It has been my belief that the church has lowered her gaze to many lesser things. Most are not necessarily bad things in and of themselves. They may include things like preaching, programs, church culture, moralism, rationalism and other “isms”, club mentality, being right (at least more right than that church down the street), being good, looking good, looking righteous, knowing how everyone else should look, finding ways to justify not being our brothers’ keeper, etc. Add your own. It is said that we will resemble that which we worship. If so, when others see us, what are we communicating about God?

It’s easy to see how these first two commandments are so connected. The second is: You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. When we take our gaze off of God as our Source of life, identity and being, whatever we gaze upon instead becomes an idol. An idol can be material or ideological. Anything, anything can become an idol. Idols are manageable. They give us a sense of certainty and tell us how to proceed. They make life seem logical and controllable. Idols freeze our certainties in time, eliminating the need for faith or hope, having created some sense of control over the past and future. Idols kill love and therefore, community.

The grace in these first two commandments is that in fixing our eyes upon Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, we receive more of God for whom we were made to love and enjoy forever as the Westminster Confession says, and God heals us and gives us ourselves. And, just as important, He gives us each other! Miroslav Volf says that when we come to faith in Christ, we not only receive Christ but also all He brings with Him. Even in each of our own lives God is creating more than a single person; He is creating a community that resembles His own communal life in the Trinity. Though I do not believe, of course, that the ancient Hebrews were thinking about attachment theory when they studied the scriptures, they did understand the idea of Shalom, that celebrative experience of life that was peace-filled, inclusive, forgiving, abundant, joyful, and harmonious. God is re-creating people who will be able to participate fully in that. In fixing our gaze upon God, we re-orient ourselves to the only true means of experiencing the community of Shalom, and of birthing the Kingdom of Shalom on earth. I hope we can begin to see these commandments not as burdens or sources of self-righteous accomplishments but as a gift of life and love.

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If you examine the picture closely, you can see that this portrayal of DaVinci’s Last Supper (photographed by Raoef Mamedov) is made up of people with Down’s Syndrome. This picture brought to mind a conversation from a DMin class on church leadership from over a year ago. It was called “Beyond Hierarchy” and focused on what church leadership could look like in this age of rapidly shifting ideas. One of the Profs had received 100 letters from pastors saying things like, “Something changed about 4 years ago . . .  We can’t do things the same anymore . . . We’re done with the show and placing ourselves on the corner and expecting people to come.”

They recognized that we have a hierarchical Christianity within an egalitarian culture. People don’t want to come to church and listen passively anymore. The expressed goal of the class was to explore how to release everyone to be active participants in the Grand Narrative of God. Sounded good. Aha! An action plan! A good old “how-to”.

During the class we were part of a class-wide conference call with an author of one of the many new how-to-do-church books that have been published in the last few years. (Not that there’s anything wrong with that. I’ve read a ton of them, many are really good and insightful about church in this culture.) But then one class member asked him, who should lead the church? Without a second’s hesitation he replied, “the least of these.”

Silence.

No-one knew what to say to that. We all felt a bit exposed. Surely he was not serious. We wanted new ideas, but in reality most of us are still pretty comfortable with the “sharpest” and most entertaining and informative as leaders. And we like to be counted amongst that special group. And we still too often want someone up front that makes us feel like good Christians and look like we are doing important work. We become very comfortable with the congregational passivity that that leadership structure produces and the resulting insulation from most of the hurt and need of the world (or, quite possibly, down the street.)  But the least of these? How does leadership flow through them?

I remember my sweet cousin with Down’s who died in her thirties of a heart condition that is common to the syndrome. She was without guile and ready to love anyone. She would give huge bear hugs and unabashedly assume that you were her best friend upon first meeting. Simple things that would not warrant a second look from most of us made her uncommonly happy. And most of us have heard the stories from the Special Olympics where a whole group of runners will stop and run back to help a fallen friend – and often choose to cross the finish line together. They are each their brother’s keeper. When you think about it, when it comes to Christ-like love perhaps they set the bar too high for the rest of us.

We know that if we made any of them executive pastor, it might kill the institution which needs CEO’s and administrators and winners to make it work and stay afloat. But what do we value? From the least of these we might just learn humility, a sincere lack of self-importance, unconditional love, and sacrificial giving simply because someone had a need. Maybe we’d develop eyes to see God beyond where we have convinced ourselves He works and stays. Maybe we’d really move beyond hierarchy because we’d be in utter awe and wonder of each and every new best friend we meet. Maybe we’d finally see the Reality of God in the rhythms of a footrace gone backwards.

Jurgen Moltmann says that a church without the disabled is a disabled church. I think that’s because without them we really buy into the idea that the best and brightest know something more about doing “ministry” than everyone else. In my ongoing search for real church, that is, our true identity as the Body of the living Christ, our Living Orthodoxy, it seems that the “least of these” truly do know something about the Kingdom of God that the rest of us desperately need to learn. And perhaps, we who have lowered our sites to a comfortable ticket-to-heaven gospel are truly the “disabled” ones.

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